Francis M. Tober, 74

Francis M. Tober, 74, of Georgetown, Del., passed away peacefully on Sunday, Nov. 19, 2017, in his home, surrounded by his family. He was born in Pelham, N.Y., to Fredrick and Anne Tober.

Tober graduated from Iona College and married his high school sweetheart, Elaine Margaret Leggat. He joined the FBI as a special agent in 1969, throughout his career serving in the cities of Minneapolis, New York City, New Rochelle, N.Y., and Buffalo, N.Y.

Tober was a passionate man who loved to read and continually learn. He earned a master’s degree in education from Buffalo State College in his retirement years. He made many friends throughout his life, was well-known for his penchant for making others laugh with his wacky sense of humor and wit, or to make them feel special with his loving, ever-friendly and gentle way.

He always had a tall-tale story ready for anyone who would listen (fact-checking was always advised). He loved solving mind-teaser jokes — especially the one about “The Missing Dollar.” He spent many hours over the years to try to figure out where the other dollar did go.

Tober always wanted to give back to the community, and was a volunteer with the American Red Cross Emergency Disaster Services and service officer for the National Active & Retired Federal Employees Association (NARFE).

He showed his family and friends how to be continually strong in the face of great adversity. While Tober was stricken with a severe stroke in 1990, lost his wife at an early age and battled more than 20 years of various episodes of cardiovascular illnesses and related major surgeries, he never stopped “fighting the good fight.”

Tober lost the love of his life, Elaine, in 1997, due to illness. He is survived by his brother, Fredrick “Joe” Tober and his wife, Claudia, of Bear, Del.; his three children, of whom he was extremely loving and proud, Dave Tober and his wife, Katy, of Georgetown, Del., Margaret Robbins and her husband, Scott, of Wilmington, N.C., and Kristen O’Brien and her husband, Kevin, of Georgetown; and his five grandchildren, Jennifer Robbins and Spencer, J.T., Alyson and Madison Tober.

The family offered a special thank-you to Delaware Hospice for their loving care and support and to Watson Funeral Home of Millsboro, Del., for all of their assistance. Now, that he is in heaven, the family suspects that Tober has solved the “Missing Dollar” riddle and finally knows where the other dollar went. “Good night sweet prince, may flights of angels sing thee to thy rest…”

A memorial was scheduled for Nov. 24, 2017, at the Sussex Pines Country Club, Georgetown, Del. A Mass of Christian Burial and entombment were to be held near Buffalo, N.Y., on Nov. 28, 2017, at St. Mary’s Church in Swormville, N.Y. In lieu of flowers, the family suggested donations to Delaware Hospice; 100 Patriots Way; Milford, DE 19963. Condolences may be sent online at